Saturday, October 2, 2010

Analyzing You: On Friendship and Betrayal

Have you ever had a friend that has completely fucked you over?

Have you ever had an enemy that became a friend?

I've had both of these happen to me. And I've been on both sides of it. Today, I started chatting with someone who I once considered to be a close friend, until he completely destroyed my trust in him. He had shared some very personal information about a friend of ours with a bunch of strangers, and it enraged me to the point where I basically cut all contact with him. What's even worse is that he wasn't the least bit remorseful for what he had done.



They say that time heals all wounds. I wouldn't say that, but it can certainly help patch them up some. I decided today to try and move past what he did, and attempt to continue a friendship with him. I'm hoping that I won't regret this decision.

In the past, I've found that just forgiving someone can make a world of difference. One of my closest friends right now is someone who I never thought I could be friends with. I considered him an enemy for a long time, for a conflict we had in the past. But, one day, he came to me and just apologized for it. And I forgave him for it. And today we're good friends.

I have also been on the opposite end of this as well. I had a friend that for many years was the only person I could talk to about.. well really anything personal. I still don't know why I did it, but I fucked him over, bad, by stealing some things from him. This broke our friendship apart for a very long time. I regret it to this day.

Later on, I realized that I really had no one else to talk to about things, and I fucked over the only person that would listen to me. I begged him to forgive me, and he decided to give me a second chance. I really think that I can say we are good friends again today.

I guess that's just life for you. Mistakes are made, you learn from them.

And you move on.

35 comments:

  1. I agree with this. Holding a grudge unjustly only causes more suffering in the long term. If you must, just realize they are below you and not worth hating even.

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  2. I completely agree with the pic.

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  3. I shed a tear when I saw your image. :/

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  4. i wish things were always that simple, not sure i can completely agree with you but an interesting viewpoint nonetheless

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  5. Totally agree and the fact just because one person fucks you over doesnt mean you cabt trust anyone ever again(ladies)

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  6. very true statement on the image, still doesn't stop us regretting though.

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  7. Love that picture... Love that text...

    Keep it up man =)

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  8. Ive been on both sides before. Sometimes I try to repair burned bridges. But once destroyed nothing is built back to its former glory.

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  9. I regret regretting things. Oh god.

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  10. I hear ya. I lost a good friend to...you guessed it, a woman. She just somehow changed his personality.
    Like your story, it wasn't personal, it just sorta happened.

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  11. been on both sides of this before; it's funny what people can do to those they're closest too

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  12. the fact is that this wisdom doesnt look good when you are actually struck by bad things

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  13. You shouldn't hold a grudge, but if you get betrayed, you shouldn't 100% trust them either. You know that they could stab you in the back and that they have, and if you let them, they could again.

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  14. i think everyone experiences this

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  15. i've had the enemy one but no friend has ever fucked me over.

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  16. Very good advice to live by.

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  17. Makes allot of sense thats why my trust is really hard to gain..great post.

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  18. I don't have that many friends for fear this will happen.

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  19. But what if I made a decision that I wasn't fully sure about? That's a totally acceptable regret.

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  20. I see no reason why people should stop being friends when they break up.

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  21. Friends are a rare commodity for some. You have to treasure them as you would say a family heirloom or your computer.

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  22. Not everything that ever happens is "exactly what you want"

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  23. heheheh
    thats true

    never regret :D

    nice post

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  24. I gotta say, I really have an appreciation for you personal insights. Keep it up, man.

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  25. i lost my virginity and i dont regret a thing!

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